I signed up for Match.com about 5 years ago and have periodically subscribed for the services. I even met had a couple of relationships with women I met, and would have reccommended the site despite its flaws (like getting rid of the instant messenger system.)

So here I was getting the summertime itch and decided to take the plunge again and see what might be out there. I signed up for the free period and figured I'd get my free 10 days plus a month subscription. If I got nothing by then the summer's almost over anyway. So I have signed up and a friend tells me about their new email policy: To recieve an email you must be a subscriber. Not a member, but a paying subscriber!

This might seem reasonable, but if you think about it it just means you'll waste a lot of time writing to people who will never read your message to them. I called customer service to find if there is any way to determine if any women I come across that interest me are subscribers who will actually recieve my messages... The best the poor girl could tell me is "You know that there is a chance that the member is a subscriber and will receive your email."

So the best they can offer is that you can spend time to compose a well-written, personalized message to a woman for a simple chance that her eyes may actually read it. It's hard enough to get a woman to write you back without having to waste time writing to women who may or may not even know that your message exists!

I asked how this is supposed to give any incentive to subscribe. The poor customer service girl tells me that while you can't see the messages, or who has sent them, you can see that you have emails piling up and that would provide incentive to sign up and see your messages. She had no reply to my contention that if I wasn't a subscriber, I would be much more likely to sign up if I recieved a message from someone who really interested me.

I already know that finding a woman is a crapshoot. But it seems that even with that in mind the only way you can conceivably get any action off match.com is to send a cut and paste to every single woman on there and hope that one or two that you might dig actually don't care that you sent them a YOUR NAME HERE message. Frankly, I don't want that woman anyway.

Match.com is for fools. Unfortunatly, there are a lot of them out there...

didnt you post this a few months ago?

Why not just crash funerals, like the rest of us do?!?

I signed up for Match.com about 5 years ago and have periodically subscribed for the services. I even met had a couple of relationships with women I met, and would have reccommended the site despite its flaws (like getting rid of the instant messenger system.)

So here I was getting the summertime itch and decided to take the plunge again and see what might be out there. I signed up for the free period and figured I'd get my free 10 days plus a month subscription. If I got nothing by then the summer's almost over anyway. So I have signed up and a friend tells me about their new email policy: To recieve an email you must be a subscriber. Not a member, but a paying subscriber!

This might seem reasonable, but if you think about it it just means you'll waste a lot of time writing to people who will never read your message to them. I called customer service to find if there is any way to determine if any women I come across that interest me are subscribers who will actually recieve my messages... The best the poor girl could tell me is "You know that there is a chance that the member is a subscriber and will receive your email."

So the best they can offer is that you can spend time to compose a well-written, personalized message to a woman for a simple chance that her eyes may actually read it. It's hard enough to get a woman to write you back without having to waste time writing to women who may or may not even know that your message exists!

I asked how this is supposed to give any incentive to subscribe. The poor customer service girl tells me that while you can't see the messages, or who has sent them, you can see that you have emails piling up and that would provide incentive to sign up and see your messages. She had no reply to my contention that if I wasn't a subscriber, I would be much more likely to sign up if I recieved a message from someone who really interested me.

I already know that finding a woman is a crapshoot. But it seems that even with that in mind the only way you can conceivably get any action off match.com is to send a cut and paste to every single woman on there and hope that one or two that you might dig actually don't care that you sent them a YOUR NAME HERE message. Frankly, I don't want that woman anyway.

Match.com is for fools. Unfortunatly, there are a lot of them out there...

Met my wife on there...things are great. Known each other for four years now and married for two.

Did you seriously meet your wife on match.com?????

Did you seriously meet your wife on match.com?????

Nope, he was lying just to raise his post count a bit. Like I am right now, only I'm not lying ...

I already know that finding a woman is a crapshoot. But it seems that even with that in mind the only way you can conceivably get any action off match.com is to send a cut and paste to every single woman on there and hope that one or two that you might dig actually don't care that you sent them a YOUR NAME HERE message. Frankly, I don't want that woman anyway.
You're dating Crapshoot?

You're dating Crapshoot?

That was actually my first thought, but I managed to restrain from posting it. :p

Thanks for making it official. Up until now, it was just conjecture.

Did you seriously meet your wife on match.com?????

Yes...both of us are teachers, me high school, and her 6th grade. Neither of us at all interested in the bar/pickup scene and both of us fairly introverted. Never would have met any other way. In a weird item, we were both in the same dorm at Miami University our junior years and didn't once meet each other.

Met my wife on there...things are great. Known each other for four years now and married for two.

Like I said, I would have recommended it. Particularly when they had the instant messenger. That seemed to be gold for meeting women!

That was what I bitched about last year. The fact that they got rid of the instant messenger. You didn't even need to write! Just go online, see who's on and invite them to chat. I was talking pretty good with five women at once when things advanced with one. I was with her for a year and a half. I think that worked too well so they discontinued it... It's like if winning the lottery was easy they would change it up. Same thing here... they want us to waste our time, then keep paying them for the couple nibbles that we might get every few weeks.

I wonder what step they could take next to make it less likely you'll actually meet someone on there... Hmmm...

me high school, and her 6th grade.


YES!!!

Like I said, I would have recommended it. Particularly when they had the instant messenger. That seemed to be gold for meeting women!

That was what I bitched about last year. The fact that they got rid of the instant messenger. You didn't even need to write! Just go online, see who's on and invite them to chat. I was talking pretty good with five women at once when things advanced with one. I was with her for a year and a half. I think that worked too well so they discontinued it... It's like if winning the lottery was easy they would change it up. Same thing here... they want us to waste our time, then keep paying them for the couple nibbles that we might get every few weeks.

I wonder what step they could take next to make it less likely you'll actually meet someone on there... Hmmm...


have some sort of shock system wherein if a picture doesn't represent the person today they get shocked to holy high heaven? Or that when they type they cant lie or risk death?

this thread is just waiting to explode

Try Yahoo Personals, that's where I met future Mrs. DanGarion (as of the 29th of this month, only 12 more days!)

Try Yahoo Personals, that's where I met future Mrs. DanGarion (as of the 29th of this month, only 12 more days!)

One of my coworkers just got engaged to a guy she met on J-Date.

Wouldn't work too well for me, being all Christian and stuff!

Try myspace.

Try myspace.

LOL!!!

Did you seriously meet your wife on match.com?????

I actually met mine there too, I had just browsed it for a couple of Months, never seriously considering joining cause I was doing fine with my usual venues, but my Wifes profile intrigued me enough to join it just to email her......best $20.95 I ever spent....and no shipping and handling charges either :)

Try myspace.

Best line of this thread so far.

You're dating Crapshoot?

That was suppose to be a secret!!!!!!!
..

I mean, I have no clue what you're talking about... :D

Does anyone know if you buy one of these services from match.com if it appears on your bank statement? Just curious.

Could always order a Russian bride!

Also, I hear Ashley Madison is a good site for dating.

Does anyone know if you buy one of these services from match.com if it appears on your bank statement? Just curious.
haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Met my wife on there...things are great. Known each other for four years now and married for two.

Add another to the Match.com success story list. Met my wife on there in August of 2002, married in August of 2003.

Sounds like this is an info commerical for successful matches made online?

Not trying to troll I just never understood the whole internet dating thing. I'm glad it has worked out for some of you, it just seems weird to me.

My ex left me for some guy she met on eHarmony....so I know that site works.

...me high school, and her 6th grade.

Now, if she had been IN 6th grade, this post could have gone in another often read thread. ;)

You're dating Crapshoot?

for 15 kilos of Colombian heroin, who wouldn't?

My ex left me for some guy she met on eHarmony....so I know that site works.
LOL, im sorry but well played

I actually met mine there too, .... but my Wifes profile intrigued me enough to join it just to email her.

Identical situation here, except it was my wife that joined just to meet me after I sent her mail. The system is great for people that are introverted.

I'm surprised that you can't just screen through the profiles to find women that are subscribers, and then just limit your searching and emailing to those. If they won't let you do that, try another service.

For those that say online dating services are for fools, know that our son will be one year old at the end of this month, and he would never have been born if not for an online dating service. It works for some.

I actually met mine there too, I had just browsed it for a couple of Months, never seriously considering joining cause I was doing fine with my usual venues, but my Wifes profile intrigued me enough to join it just to email her......best $20.95 I ever spent....and no shipping and handling charges either :)

Wow...that's exactly how mine went except mine was only $19.95.

I signed up for Match.com about 5 years ago and have periodically subscribed for the services. I even met had a couple of relationships with women I met, and would have reccommended the site despite its flaws (like getting rid of the instant messenger system.)

So here I was getting the summertime itch and decided to take the plunge again and see what might be out there. I signed up for the free period and figured I'd get my free 10 days plus a month subscription. If I got nothing by then the summer's almost over anyway. So I have signed up and a friend tells me about their new email policy: To recieve an email you must be a subscriber. Not a member, but a paying subscriber!

This might seem reasonable, but if you think about it it just means you'll waste a lot of time writing to people who will never read your message to them. I called customer service to find if there is any way to determine if any women I come across that interest me are subscribers who will actually recieve my messages... The best the poor girl could tell me is "You know that there is a chance that the member is a subscriber and will receive your email."

So the best they can offer is that you can spend time to compose a well-written, personalized message to a woman for a simple chance that her eyes may actually read it. It's hard enough to get a woman to write you back without having to waste time writing to women who may or may not even know that your message exists!

I asked how this is supposed to give any incentive to subscribe. The poor customer service girl tells me that while you can't see the messages, or who has sent them, you can see that you have emails piling up and that would provide incentive to sign up and see your messages. She had no reply to my contention that if I wasn't a subscriber, I would be much more likely to sign up if I recieved a message from someone who really interested me.

I already know that finding a woman is a crapshoot. But it seems that even with that in mind the only way you can conceivably get any action off match.com is to send a cut and paste to every single woman on there and hope that one or two that you might dig actually don't care that you sent them a YOUR NAME HERE message. Frankly, I don't want that woman anyway.

Match.com is for fools. Unfortunatly, there are a lot of them out there...


Your point is valid; however, match is a business, and this "feature" makes a ton of money. While I agree with you 100%, the chances of this changing anytime soon are slim to none. Believe me, this concern has been raised.

Did you demand your money back after the free trial period didn't live up to your expectations?

My ex left me for some guy she met on eHarmony....so I know that site works.

That's a testimonial I'd like to see on those commercials.

Really interesting read as i have a work offer to develop and do marketing for a new online dating service. Seems i'll need to buy add space on gamespy :)

Wow...that's exactly how mine went except mine was only $19.95.

I got screwed out of a buck?!?!?!!

Match.com IS a ripoff!!

Radii and I met online as well. I was actually going in and deleting my profile of off the sites I was on...logged into one and some guy named radii had just sent me a message. I responded and told him I was leaving the site...gave him an email address where he could write me. We emailed a few times, talked on the phone a few times, then met for lunch...the rest is history :)

Radii and I met online as well. I was actually going in and deleting my profile of off the sites I was on...logged into one and some guy named radii had just sent me a message. I responded and told him I was leaving the site...gave him an email address where he could write me. We emailed a few times, talked on the phone a few times, then met for lunch...the rest is history :)

aaaahhhh....memories: http://www.operationsports.com/fofc/showthread.php?t=8054

aaaahhhh....memories: http://www.operationsports.com/fofc/showthread.php?t=8054
It would be funny if this was before Oliegirl ;)

Ping: JimmyWint :D

NICE find dangarion...

NICE find dangarion...
You mean digamma. :D

You mean digamma. :D

Freakin' A... I need to pay more attention.. I credited you for quoting him apparently ;)...

Good thread.

Met my fiance on Match.com.

I'm too nervous of trying one of the dating sites. I just got out of a 3 year relationship and I need a break for awhile! Your reviews and personal stories seem to be mostly postive, so maybe I'll give it a shot down the road!

Literally official?

My boss meet someone on match.com. When he went to meet her for lunch , she was a midget.

She lied about who she was and her profile.

She had the nerve to ask him are you still going to pay for my lunch?

My boss was nice enough to have lunch with her, but was really was embarrassed and angry afterwards.

I met my wife in an AOL chatroom. Six years later, we've been married for four years, and have three kids. They're all cute. Go look at the pictures, and envy us: :D

http://noblebrown.com/gallery.html

I met my wife in an AOL chatroom. Six years later, we've been married for four years, and have three kids. They're all cute. Go look at the pictures, and envy us: :D

http://noblebrown.com/gallery.html

Great pics, Noble! The kids are adorable! I am envious...:(

I met my wife in an AOL chatroom. Six years later, we've been married for four years, and have three kids. They're all cute. Go look at the pictures, and envy us: :D

http://noblebrown.com/gallery.html

I like how the blog is just one big advertisement for sportsdigs. Great cross promotion!

I like how the blog is just one big advertisement for sportsdigs. Great cross promotion!

Did you actually read anything but the last few entries?

Did you actually read anything but the last few entries?

of course not

Great pics, Noble! The kids are adorable! I am envious...:(

Thanks. :) I'm obnoxious about bragging on them... I have about 20 photos all over my office at work. I've turned into "annoying kid picture guy." :D

of course not

Fair enough. :D

I pretty much quit the blog when we launched SportsDigs.com, and decided instead to post anything I'd normally blog about over there.

That's a testimonial I'd like to see on those commercials.

I should email the guy and thank him.

"My ex left me for someone she met on eHarmony. Thanks to 29 aspects of personality compatibility, eHarmony helped me get out of a dead end relationship. Thanks for getting her out of my life!"

Your point is valid; however, match is a business, and this "feature" makes a ton of money. While I agree with you 100%, the chances of this changing anytime soon are slim to none. Believe me, this concern has been raised.
So like do you work for them or something?

So like do you work for them or something?


Yes, I do.

Yes, I do.
That's cool. Too bad it wasn't the one that ended up finding my girl, but I used match off and on for a couple years.

Have you guys seen those commercials for eHarmony, where everyone is all zombified? They're like, "we were choosing the things we THOUGHT we wanted.." and "you don't even have to search!" or something like that..

It would be funny if this was before Oliegirl ;)

Nope - that was me :)

I signed up for Match.com about 5 years ago and have periodically subscribed for the services. I even met had a couple of relationships with women I met, and would have reccommended the site despite its flaws (like getting rid of the instant messenger system.)

So here I was getting the summertime itch and decided to take the plunge again and see what might be out there. I signed up for the free period and figured I'd get my free 10 days plus a month subscription. If I got nothing by then the summer's almost over anyway. So I have signed up and a friend tells me about their new email policy: To recieve an email you must be a subscriber. Not a member, but a paying subscriber!

This might seem reasonable, but if you think about it it just means you'll waste a lot of time writing to people who will never read your message to them. I called customer service to find if there is any way to determine if any women I come across that interest me are subscribers who will actually recieve my messages... The best the poor girl could tell me is "You know that there is a chance that the member is a subscriber and will receive your email."

So the best they can offer is that you can spend time to compose a well-written, personalized message to a woman for a simple chance that her eyes may actually read it. It's hard enough to get a woman to write you back without having to waste time writing to women who may or may not even know that your message exists!

I asked how this is supposed to give any incentive to subscribe. The poor customer service girl tells me that while you can't see the messages, or who has sent them, you can see that you have emails piling up and that would provide incentive to sign up and see your messages. She had no reply to my contention that if I wasn't a subscriber, I would be much more likely to sign up if I recieved a message from someone who really interested me.

I already know that finding a woman is a crapshoot. But it seems that even with that in mind the only way you can conceivably get any action off match.com is to send a cut and paste to every single woman on there and hope that one or two that you might dig actually don't care that you sent them a YOUR NAME HERE message. Frankly, I don't want that woman anyway.

Match.com is for fools. Unfortunatly, there are a lot of them out there...
If you are a subscriber to Match.com do you then get to know who is also a Subscriber, and who is there only temporary?

Seems like once they had your money they could then roll back the curtain and show you who would be receiving your emails, and who would not.

So apparently Dr. Phil does commercials for these guys.

That, uh, change any of the dudes' opinions? :D

FranklinNobles pick = FarvaNoble

If we would just let parents arrange their children's marriages like in the old days, none of this would be an issue.

I should email the guy and thank him.

"My ex left me for someone she met on eHarmony. Thanks to 29 aspects of personality compatibility, eHarmony helped me get out of a dead end relationship. Thanks for getting her out of my life!"

How did you find out? Did eHarmony come across on the bank statement?

How did you find out? Did eHarmony come across on the bank statement?


dude, no need to work blue.

Homersimpson : No, you can't tell who is a subscriber and who isn't. That's part of the problem.

If you are a subscriber to Match.com do you then get to know who is also a Subscriber, and who is there only temporary?

Seems like once they had your money they could then roll back the curtain and show you who would be receiving your emails, and who would not.
No. They do not show you who is also a subscriber.

If I were to offer a bit of advice to match.com in trying to put a positive twist on this, they could always offer the advice that the depressing aspect of writing to a woman who really moves you only to never hear a response could now mean that she never got to read your email, rather than she finds you nauseating.

Wow. As much as I like to converse on the internet, it's boggles my mind to actually seek out a relationship through it. But then again, it appears to be a great medium for starting out - as long as both parties stay true.

How did you find out? Did eHarmony come across on the bank statement?

:D

Actually, I showed up at her apartment and she was talking to the guy on the phone when I got there (and yes, she knew I was coming over, too).

:D

Actually, I showed up at her apartment and she was talking to the guy on the phone when I got there (and yes, she knew I was coming over, too).

Did you crack some skulls?

Met my girl at a bar.

Did you crack some skulls?

No, I still spent the weekend at her place and hit it a few times.

No, I still spent the weekend at her place and hit it a few times.


I gotta say; if you're gonna end it, end it hitting it.

:D

Actually, I showed up at her apartment and she was talking to the guy on the phone when I got there (and yes, she knew I was coming over, too).


Maybe the first hint should have been you were married and she had her own apartment? ;)

Maybe the first hint should have been you were married and she had her own apartment? ;)
Heh. I keep forgetting that to people my age, and the general age of this forum, "ex" usually implies an ex-spouse. Luckily, I've managed to evade the horrors of marriage. I've only had one serious relationship in my life (hence my use of the "ex" instead of being more specific), and it's a good thing I was always too poor to afford a ring or things would have gotten far worse.

EDIT: And Rizon is spot on. Hit it then quit it, that's the way to end it.

Met my girl at a bar.

Met mine at Wendy's...